Attachment Theory

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Terry Cooke-Davies:

"It begins with John Bowlby in post-war London, observing what happened to children separated from their mothers. His attachment theory—developed with Mary Ainsworth’s research on the ‘strange situation’—established that human beings are wired for connection from birth. The quality of early relationships shapes the developing brain, the stress response system, the capacity to regulate emotion. Secure attachment is not a luxury; it is the foundation on which everything else is built.

Stephen Porges’s polyvagal theory, developed from the 1990s onwards, added neurophysiological precision. The autonomic nervous system, Porges showed, is not simply fight-or-flight versus rest-and-digest. There is a third state—the ‘social engagement system’—that emerges only when the nervous system detects safety. Learning, play, connection, creativity: all require this state. A child whose nervous system is scanning for threat cannot access the neural pathways that make learning possible. Safety is not a precondition for education; safety is the precondition.

Meanwhile, the embodied cognition revolution was overturning a century of assumptions about how minds work. Antonio Damasio demonstrated that emotion is not opposed to reason but essential to it—patients with damaged emotional processing cannot make good decisions. Lisa Feldman Barrett and Anil Seth showed that the brain is primarily a regulatory organ, predicting and managing the body’s needs, with cognition riding on top of this more fundamental activity. The mind is not a computer running programmes; it is an embodied process, inseparable from the flesh it inhabits.

These streams converge on a single insight: you cannot educate a child whose regulatory system is in survival mode."

(https://terrycookedavies.substack.com/p/the-quiet-revolution-in-our-primary)